'So what's for lunch?': Coworker won't stop mooching off of employee's lunch, refusing to eat anything else

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    D F , Z X C V B H option command comm
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    Coworker relies on me for lunch So my coworker completely stopped bringing her lunch to work (she used to do it a
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    few times a week) and she will only eat lunch for the day if I go out and get it. I feel like she is relying on me for food. For
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    example, on the days. where I bring my lunch to work she WILL NOT eat because I'm not going out it's already in the fridge.
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    She doesn't bring anything or go out to get something. On the days I do go out to pick up lunch she will ask me "so
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    what's for lunch?" and I'll say "I have no idea I didn't bring anything today" and she will say "great, wherever you pick
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    just let me know and I'll give you my card to get me something too." To combat that I would say somewhere I know she
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    doesn't like and she would say "ugh okay I guess I'll eat there" as if that's her only option.
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    Now I tell her I'm going out running errands and will pick up something nearby said errand and even on those days she does not eat lunch. The
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    ONLY days she will eat lunch is when I go somewhere and she can piggy back off of my trip. out somewhere. I don't like feeling like she's relying on me for food.
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    What do you think is going on? It's not a money thing because she always gives me money to pick up her food. It's
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    strange to not eat for weeks straight because you won't leave work to go get your own OR bring food from home. Any ideas on WHY SHE
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    WON'T GET HER OWN FOOD AND WOULD RATHER STARVE??? I'm not the only one who thinks this is extremely bizarre!
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    Existi... • 20h ago. Top 1% Comme... Next time just leave. Don't let her know you're going out for lunch. Or set boundaries and say
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    no. Or introduce the I'll buy, you fly method. In this method, you pay for the person's meal if they go out to get
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    the meals. So she can pay for both of your lunches if she is too lazy to get her own.
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    Shodd... 20h ago • I would start by making it a habit for a least a month to bring a lunch. See how long she can go without eating during the day. It's
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    not your responsibility to cater to her. You need to set this boundary.
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    hissyfi... 19h ago • . You got to wait her out. Bring your lunch all the time and if she chooses to go hungry, that's on her. You're not her mom. It's not your responsibility to make sure she eats.
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    Time_... 19h ago I have to ask....are you on the younger side ie under 25? This question is a complete non issue and her nutrition is so not your problem.
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    You are not obligated to bring her lunch, nor are you willing to be burdened with the responsibility.
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    Find a grey rock response you like and stick with it. "What's for lunch?" "Not sure." Are you going out for lunch?" "Not sure."
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    "Can you grab me something if you go?" "No." You must get more comfortable with protecting your time,
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    space, energy or people will walk all over you. It's not a good look.

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